Why You Should Let Him Chase You
Men love the chase!
They ALL do.
Single, dating and married men worship the chase!
They won’t admit it necessarily AND they may declare they don’t like women who play games…
But a woman who doesn’t chase isn’t playing hard to get.
She is in her feminine POWER and is active with her juicy joyful life.
Men think they know what they want BUT what they genuinely crave and need is a different story.
Now I won’t generalize here and say all men don’t want to be chased.
But in this blog post, I’m referring to masculine energy men who wish to do the chasing.
We all know they’re not consciously cognizant of it…AND women accept their words to heart.
They don’t play games like the chase which produces - BOREDOM…
Men are hard-wired to chase and capture.
This is encoded in their caveman DNA.
Contrary to what they may claim, they don’t prefer an easy win with you regardless of whether they’re dating you or have been married to you for 20 years.
What helps keep the fires burning inside a man is his desire to seek you out, chase you and catch you.
When you are the huntress, you stamp out the fire within him, it turns to smoke and goes out on its own.
Men appreciate something more after they’ve worked for it.
The value of what they fight for is WAY higher than something that is handed to them on a silver platter.
The chase is a critical element ANY passionate relationship.
As a recovered silver platter chaser myself, I can attest to the fact that it's NEVER too late to become the "chasee" instead of the chaser.
Many years into my relationship with my husband, I stopped chasing.
I wasn’t chasing that whole time but in the more recent years;)
The benefits were noticed almost instantly!
The kisses, hugs and intimacy felt better when initiated by my husband.
Things just felt so...RIGHT.
Not that those things weren’t good before BUT when my husband comes towards me, I feel so feminine and desired.
He feels more like a man so we BOTH win.
The chase must never stop!
Whether you’ve been chasing that new guy you’re into OR even if you’ve been chasing for thirty years, you can stop and change things quickly.
In work and in love, men are results-oriented.
They want to feel like they’ve worked for the woman in their life.
The workplace rewards today’s working woman, notably the successful driven ones in business environments, for masculine qualities.
Like taking the lead, managing and directing.
So it can be very challenging for them to abandon this going-for-it-mode and sliding into their feminine energy.
Put your energy elsewhere, allow your man some breathing room and LET him have the gratification of the hunt.
When you go after your crush or man you’re seeing, he feels suffocated.
Lean back instead to give him the SPACE and watch how he naturally shows up.
This isn’t about playing games and assuredly isn’t about manipulation.
Leaning back gives him the space to think about you and miss you.
It also serves you because you can relax and feel the relief of NOT having an agenda.
I suggest that you be intentional and try this out.
Be patient!
Having your own fun things to do, so that you aren’t waiting around expectantly, will help this transition from huntress to goddess.
Melissa xox